One of my clients recently told me he wrote the word NO in large letters and
then highlighted it on every page of his planner. It served as a constant reminder
to question why he was scheduling something and made sure only the appointments
that made sense for him made it in the book.
At least twice. If you are in the store and say no twice (two separate visits),
but find you still want it, go ahead and buy it with a free conscience. It's
probably not something you're going to want to get rid of in 3 months.
Get-Togethers with Friends if the Time Or Energy Doesn't Work for You
Their time is precious, but so is yours. Giving in when someone 'insists' normally
puts a strain on the relationship. And the more often you do it, the bigger
the strain. Say yes when it feels right, and respect their right to say No to
Anything to Which 'Yes' Wasn't Your First Answer
This may be the most important one of all. Sometimes we say no, but others are
very persuasive or very persistent and we find ourselves saying 'Yes' for a
whole bunch of reasons that have nothing to do with the topic at hand. Sometimes
it's because a 'no' feels like a rejection of the person asking, instead of
the thing they're asking. The possessions or responsibilities we come into this
way are guaranteed to oppress us because the guilt that made us accept in the
first place makes it almost impossible to unload these things later. This takes
practice, but may be one of the best skills you ever develop.
About the Author
Louise Morganti Kaelin is a Life Success Coach who partners with individuals
who are READY (to live their best life), WILLING (to explore all options) and
ABLE (to accept total support). Visit her website for many free resources to
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